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Post by bundyrum on Mar 5, 2013 9:20:47 GMT 7
yes thats a fact,i rang c/l other day and was talking to a young girl on there about up,she told me about every thing i all ready no,she said go 4 up if i want but could find myself on new start,at 60.because of the 2 hr week rule ,and i just happend 2 ask if australia had an agreament with japan about c/l payments ,and she sais ill just check on my computer,and quess what her computer said no,my computer sais yes it does ,so she was looking at it there and then and lied to me strate up,i said nothing because im not ready just yet,but she lied ,and she seemed such a nice young thing to lol. is there a 2 hour a week rule or is it just a guideline. |
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Post by bundyrum on Mar 5, 2013 9:25:06 GMT 7
 In my humble opinion. Don't get married. bit hard if yer little darl..is a Muslem and her family won.t have anything to do with her if she doesn't marry..which means I'll have to become Muslem...that's the law here.and well it's only a piece of paper..Salamat pagi..
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Post by zorro1 on Mar 5, 2013 9:29:20 GMT 7
Bundy, small world i also have a Muslim girlfriend from the south but she has thai/chinese blood. After 5 years I still haven't met the family and she stills smuggles short skirts into her handbag and gets changed at my place and shes 38!! dont worry about converting, you can always convert back once the deed is done....or you can grow a beard and and dress in flowing robes, likes kinda cool |
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Post by peter on Mar 5, 2013 15:04:17 GMT 7
Hello Bundy,
Its best to keep it to customary marriage, no need for official papers. From your point of view its just to regularise her status within her community.
The situation is sensitive not because a Moslem is with a kano, but because she is classed in with that type of woman who tends to be with kanos for money only and that is a big taboo for the Moslem community there.
Its also sensitive because she as a Moslem, should not be with a Christian, but that is the much lesser of the two sensitivities. The commercial disgrace is the one that is most in their minds.
Check around for the prospect of contract marriage, that is a time limited marriage, such as "for as long as I am in Philippines" or even a fixed period. Depends again on sensitivities.
But for any type of marriage to a Moslem there, do not forget to bedrock the relationship in the beginning with the payment of dowry.
This is not a bride price, but an amount to to ensure the financial stability of the woman in her own right so that if things do not last, and its acceptable to say in advance that they might not last for example you will not be around long, because of age, poor health, or return to your own country, then the woman has her own asset.
Acceptable forms of dowry to the woman, is the purchase of a barangay house, or the one that is best liked, is a piece of land that can be tenanted.
Offer to pay a dowry, and you will find that your problems will dissolve and your status will increase. Its also a cement underlay to the relationship, because if she does not continue with the relationship, then the dowry is a point of argument because it should be returned.
The dowry is also part of the system for the reason that if the man discontinues the relationship the woman has some protection. And the man can discontinue the relationship or not as he sees fit quite easily. If the man discontinues the relationship, then the dowry is for her to keep.
What is important is that everyone maintains respectable status. Do that and the rest will fall into place.
And for Centrelink purposes, its not a marriage or a partner situation, cause its all temporary and occasional.
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Post by Banjo on Mar 5, 2013 17:19:40 GMT 7
A dozen bottles of bundy rum should cover the bride price.....  |
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Post by latindancer on Mar 5, 2013 18:18:26 GMT 7
And for Centrelink purposes, its not a marriage or a partner situation, cause its all temporary and occasional. But all the same, don't breathe a word to them about it as they will deem you to be partnered. |
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Post by Deleted on Mar 5, 2013 18:58:59 GMT 7
I was recently granted portability on the dsp and so I can live overseas permanently. But what happens if you get married to ur pension rate? The person who would become my wife would earn very little ie 400 a month sometimes a little more but sometimes less. Hence if I married and my dsp rate was reduced our financial state would be untenable ie I wouldn't be able to support her or us. What happens if u have a child? Is residency an issue if u have portability? Hi Ralapure; congratulations mate and I also was granted "UP"; but there is no way in hell I'll ever be marrying my woman because any amount lost, then makes it hard to live outside of Aussie! Tell em F*"k all and take em no where mate... Live in sin, because its the 21st century afterall, and if I can convince a devout Filipina catholic to do it, then you can convince anyone mate:)) Be safe and good luck out there... Cheetal:)) |
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Post by bill on Mar 15, 2013 17:00:26 GMT 7
i just had to do a flying trip to darwin and back to the philippines coz of the new 6week ruling.this is bull shit'all we're doing is lining the airlines pockets.i buy my ticket in the philippines so the asshole australian goverment dont get the tax.im 64 no chance of working but been advised cos im not in a wheelchair not to apply for permanent.
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Post by Banjo on Mar 15, 2013 17:59:30 GMT 7
Welcome to the forum Bill.
Watch your trips this year, I see you're still a while off the OAP, it would be bad news to lose residency now.
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Post by ghostbuster on Mar 15, 2013 19:23:58 GMT 7
To Bill. Have you heard the old saying "would`nt work in an iron lung or would`nt raise a sweat in a pressure cooker"? Well i`m just wondering which title fits you the best lol ;D.
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Post by Deleted on Mar 16, 2013 5:40:41 GMT 7
cheetal,as soon as my pilipina women migrates to aus,(when ever that may be ) soon i hope ,c/l said that we will be assesed as living in a defacto relationship strait away,even though we are not married yet,so my pension will drop to a married rate and she will be getting  all,i cant see any way around this,and another thing,when we fill out the visa forms i have to pay the money up front,if we fail there is no refund,but it pisses me off that i pay the money and then have to wate months and months for them to grant the visa,i bet if we payed after visa granted it would be a lot quicker,it sucks ,it really does. |
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Post by Deleted on Mar 16, 2013 5:46:31 GMT 7
and in the mean time you are spending money trying to support 2 house holds while you wate, it means you get off to a bad start in australia bucause of all the en money spent while wating for those heads to do something, can any one tell me why it takes so bloody long to get a vise to come here. |
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Post by Banjo on Mar 16, 2013 7:04:05 GMT 7
The trouble is it's gone from a virtual open door policy to the other extreme.
The press has whipped up an anti-immigrant frenzy and decent Australians in genuine relationships are paying the price.
My mate, who will never be on a pension and still runs a profitable business at 68 couldn't even bring his girlfriend over for a few weeks at Christmas.
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Post by bill on Mar 16, 2013 13:37:12 GMT 7
hahaha u silly old demented fool.i hear on the grape vine the last 4 jobs u had [cleaning dunnies] u didn't last a full day at any of them.no a mop and broom doesn't have auto pilot.u'r named right mate 'GHOST' cos u were never in sight. have a good day lol.
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Post by latindancer on Mar 16, 2013 14:55:59 GMT 7
Hey Terry,
I guess you are getting a fiancee visa ? That means you have to get married within 6 months of her arriving here, doesn't it ?
If you have friends in Oz where your girlfriend could stay (or at least store her gear), she could be with you most nights, but technically not living with you. Especially if her mailing address was at the other place. Just a thought. The drop in payment is substantial.....about $120/week....!!!!!
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