Post by Banjo on May 31, 2014 13:08:55 GMT 7
Woman forced to detail sex life in tribunal to get carer’s payment for elderly mother
A BRISBANE woman has had to air details about her multiple sex partners in a tribunal in order to get a carer’s payment to look after her elderly mother.
Although admitting she had a sexual relationship with the man with whom she lived, Neilian Toms claimed they were just “friends with benefits’’ and not a couple.
Centrelink knocked back her request for a carer payment because it decided she was in a couple relationship and her supposed partner had not provided income and asset details.
But the Administrative Appeals Tribunal accepted Ms Toms was not part of a couple, after she openly revealed she had multiple sexual partners and did not share finances with her house mate.
“People should fight if they are being done over and know they are in the right. You can take on Centrelink and win,’’ Ms Toms, 46, said yesterday.
Ms Toms, who is now living with her parents, said she was not embarrassed about revealing her sex life and said “friends with benefits’’ relationships were now much more common.
“Centrelink is behind the times. The Social Security Act needs to be updated and changed to reflect modern society,’’ she said.
Tribunal member Peter Wulf said the relationship between Ms Toms and her housemate “Mr D’’, was not monogamous.
“Ms Toms was quite open about her promiscuity ... that she was trying to live her life to the fullest and one of the ways .... was to have physical relations “with a number of different men’’, he said.
The tribunal heard that after a couple of long-term relationships, Ms Toms, 46, decided to meet men through a website.
She rented houses with Mr D, after they started a physical relationship, sharing a bed, but with each having their own separate lounge areas.
They were wholly financially independent of each other and had no joint assets, Mr Wulf said.
Ms Toms said she would see other men, but only outside the home.
Mr Wulf said members of a de facto relationship had a commitment to each other, sharing social activities and supporting each other financially.
“There appears to be nothing in the nature of the commitment other than one of a sexual nature and both Ms Toms and Mr D have multiple partners,’’ Mr Wulf said.
On May 9 he found that Ms Toms should be allowed a carer payment.
www.heraldsun.com.au/news/national/woman-forced-to-detail-sex-life-in-tribunal-to-get-carers-payment-for-elderly-mother/story-fnii5v70-1226938262420
A BRISBANE woman has had to air details about her multiple sex partners in a tribunal in order to get a carer’s payment to look after her elderly mother.
Although admitting she had a sexual relationship with the man with whom she lived, Neilian Toms claimed they were just “friends with benefits’’ and not a couple.
Centrelink knocked back her request for a carer payment because it decided she was in a couple relationship and her supposed partner had not provided income and asset details.
But the Administrative Appeals Tribunal accepted Ms Toms was not part of a couple, after she openly revealed she had multiple sexual partners and did not share finances with her house mate.
“People should fight if they are being done over and know they are in the right. You can take on Centrelink and win,’’ Ms Toms, 46, said yesterday.
Ms Toms, who is now living with her parents, said she was not embarrassed about revealing her sex life and said “friends with benefits’’ relationships were now much more common.
“Centrelink is behind the times. The Social Security Act needs to be updated and changed to reflect modern society,’’ she said.
Tribunal member Peter Wulf said the relationship between Ms Toms and her housemate “Mr D’’, was not monogamous.
“Ms Toms was quite open about her promiscuity ... that she was trying to live her life to the fullest and one of the ways .... was to have physical relations “with a number of different men’’, he said.
The tribunal heard that after a couple of long-term relationships, Ms Toms, 46, decided to meet men through a website.
She rented houses with Mr D, after they started a physical relationship, sharing a bed, but with each having their own separate lounge areas.
They were wholly financially independent of each other and had no joint assets, Mr Wulf said.
Ms Toms said she would see other men, but only outside the home.
Mr Wulf said members of a de facto relationship had a commitment to each other, sharing social activities and supporting each other financially.
“There appears to be nothing in the nature of the commitment other than one of a sexual nature and both Ms Toms and Mr D have multiple partners,’’ Mr Wulf said.
On May 9 he found that Ms Toms should be allowed a carer payment.
www.heraldsun.com.au/news/national/woman-forced-to-detail-sex-life-in-tribunal-to-get-carers-payment-for-elderly-mother/story-fnii5v70-1226938262420